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How To Heal Your Inner Child Wounds ­čśó

Tiehu Clarke
Tiehu ClarkePublished on August 11, 2022

Have you ever wondered sometimes about that little voice inside? The one that keeps reminding you of your younger self? Did you know that no matter how old one gets, we carry our younger selves within us every day? Perhaps our hurt 6-year-old self shows up when our best friend doesn't answer our phone call, feeling ignored by a spouse, or our misunderstood 13-year-old self shows up when a co-worker doesn't see eye to eye. In today's post, I want to help you understand how you can begin your inner child work by identifying wounds the younger version of yourselves experienced.

You might be thinking, what is an Inner Child Wound? And how can I heal from my childhood traumas?

What Is An Inner Child Wound?

An inner child wound is hurt, or trauma a child experiences some examples of which are feeling unloved, abandoned, rejected, neglected, or abused. Everyone has a child self within - an inner child that reflects their past, like a storybook? Sometimes, this means that the pain you experience when you were young can continue as you get older, and affect your adult self and mental health. Our inner child is a representation of ourselves at different stages of our childhood, and we can have inner children from various ages. This part of us is very much connected to the natural enthusiasm, curiosity, and excitement we experienced as children. That's one reason why you can vividly recall specific events that occur as a child.

"When we get in touch with our inner child, we can connect with their qualities and experiences at the time," "You can even physically react to a feeling you had as a child."

As children, we were very impressionable, readily absorbing what our environments and parents thought and the way they treated us.

Clinical Psychologist Trish Phillips notes, "Inner child wounds, or attachment wounds, can occur when there is either a traumatic event or chronic rupture without repair".

"For children, a rupture without repair can look like crying out for help but being unheard by an emotionally unavailable parent. Ruptures also happen in our daily lives throughout adulthood, "from when someone forgets to hold the door open for us at the store or when a friend doesn't say hi to us," noted Phillips "How we internalize them determines if the experience stays a wound or if it becomes processed right there."

In adulthood, we have a chance to heal our wounded inner child and create the safe, secure inner and outer environments our younger selves always wanted.

Why the Inner Child Healing Is Important

As adults, we tend to carry wounds from our childhood, whether it's simple or complex trauma, from emotional neglect, and abandonment to physical abuse. Many people feel they're alone with feelings of hurt, so they masked their pain because they feel like they don't want to burden others with their problems. So they suffer in silence.  

Inner child healing is so important because it reminds us that we're not wrong or bad people. We want to be healed from the shame that comes with just having feelings of not being good enough, smart enough, and pretty enough.

By healing our inner child, we begin to create the safety and security our younger selves have always needed. By doing so, the positive traits of our inner child have room to shine. We unlock our natural gifts, our inner curiosity, and our limitless capacity to love and walk in our purpose.

Are you triggered by your inner child wound and don't know what to do? Let's connect at destinyofpurpose.com

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