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Removing Toxic People is the Ultimate Weight Loss Program

GENNIFER BIRNBACHPublished on January 08, 2023

01.08.23 - Wildflower Philosophy from Gennifer with a G

Hi Wildflowers! 

THIS WEEK’S QUOTE: “Don’t light yourself on fire trying to brighten someone else’s existence.” ― Charlotte Eriksson

You are not responsible for other people’s happiness. You are not responsible for other people’s peace. You are not responsible for other people’s behavior. You are only responsible for yourself.

Life throws us in front of many people we are supposed to meet and experience for our own personal and spiritual growth. Sometimes these people show up as multiple people (putting us through the same experience over and over until we “learn our lesson” and graduate and move on).

Some of these people are friends, teachers or co-workers. Some of these people are relatives, bosses or clients.

The ones that make you feel light and easy are not to be taken for granted. They are the ones who inspire you and deliver on their promise of trust, respect, love and safety. They are heart-healthy.

The ones that make you feel heavy and drained are the ones that are as bad for your health as cigarettes. I would like to share this with you:

Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don’t turn your hair gray. Don’t carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don’t lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!” ― Bryant McGill

The enormity of cutting these people out of your life may feel overwhelming and hard.  And both are true. But there is a tiny turtle step that you can begin with (and maybe that is all you choose to do as long as you both exist). It’s called Cord (and Tether) Cutting.

You may already recognize how someone’s toxicity can impact you simply by thinking about them. That’s an energetic cord that is attached to you and it’s something you can do something about. Although it’s not usually a “one and done” so you’ll need to practice it as often as needed. Here is how to get started.

THIS WEEK’S RITUAL: Cord and Tether Cutting Time  

I’m first sharing this from Carla Blaha, Psychic Medium (Wildflower, long-time friend and someone who I’ve studied many modalities with). This excerpt is directly from Carla’s newsletter (click here to subscribe).

Energy cords are always with us; it's impossible to cut every cord and tether. The Law of Conservation states: Energy can not be destroyed. Only manipulated by an outside source. Therefore, you  can release what does not serve you in your highest good and you should but can not cut all cords.

You can and do have the power to not have these cords affect your life moving forward. This can be done for many situations or people. One at a time. 

  1. Sit it or lay quietly. Breathe in through your nose, hold then exhale. Do this until there is a relaxed, heavy feel. That’s a good thing. 

  2. Allow yourself to feel or see you as an energy  body. If visualization is a problem, declare it verbally.

  3. Breathe. Lightly focus on the person or situation you want to cut cords/tethers too. 

  4. Allow yourself to see or feel

  5. the energy of that person or situation at a distance 4-6 feet or what works for you. No emotional tie to it, just an acknowledgement (it can be a person in spirit or something from decades ago, someone here ,now etc).

  6. See or feel the cords between you without fear- it’s natural to have cords. Some will be thicker and darker than others. They could look like cords, weeds, rope etc. Bright loving cords are fine to keep. Even bad situations can have good cords. 

  7. Pick your tool: scissors, tweezers, swords, archangel, Saint etc. Have that tool puck out the cord and remove it like a weed pulled or an eyebrow pluck. State “I release from this lifetime, past lifetimes & future lifetimes.” 

  8. Fill the hole with white or gold light. Smooth it over. Paint brush or nail file. Whatever works. 

When you are through. Breathe. Allow the light from your being to spread from yourself outward and send the person or situation off with love and light. 

Carla can help you with cord cutting. I also wanted to call out Wildflower and cord cutter, Kristin Irwin of Devotion Studio. I’ve worked with both of these dynamic women to help me with some very thorny cords that I have had to (and continue to have to) free myself from. 

THIS WEEK’S RECOMMENDATION:  If today’s message really hit home with you, consider watching Harry & Megan on Netflix. This documentary takes you along Harry & Megan’s journey to escape harmful, toxic relationships and situations. To me it’s inspiring, relatable and powerful.

I remember when they first announced their decision to leave and was still recording the Your Practical Magic podcast. We talked about it in an episode called Boundaries: the Space Between so I’m sharing this with you as well.

Here’s to shedding the heavy weight that you choose to no longer carry and feeling fabulous. You deserve all good things, xo Gennifer

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